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Single fathers
One of the most difficult issues to cope with as a single parent is
an overwhelming feeling that you have to be both mother and father to
your children. This feeling becomes even more intense if the other
parent is not playing an active role with the children. So says single
father
Mike Gowen, in his article on Fathers raising their
children.
As a result, fathers may try to compensate by playing both roles, or
hunting to find a mate to fill the other role.
Gowen recommends that: Rather than feeling like you have to replace your
spouse for the sake of your children, concentrate on what you have to
offer them. There is no reason to feel guilty because of your single
parenthood. Be proud that your children have you.
As for trying to be both mother and father, Gowen says: This is fueled
by the feeling of guilt for putting our children is this position in the
first place. He says: None of us are superhuman. We have to learn to
work with our children within our own resources. No matter how much you
want, you can't be both Mom and Dad, so quit trying!
Single Fathers - Raising their Children - You Can't be Both, So
Quit Trying! Author:
Mike Gowen
Published on: July 14, 1998
February 21, 2005
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