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Black sheep
The most sensitive people are often considered the problem of the
family or the “black sheep.” Since they are more connected to their
soul, they tend to be more sensitive. If they are much more
sensitive than other family members, they will absorb the negativity
of the whole family. What the parents suppress, the sensitive child
will feel and express.
Every mother has experienced those very stressful days when she
is doing her best to hold it together, but it is very difficult. At
those times, she struggles to feel better by suppressing her fears,
worries, anxieties, frustrations, and disappointments.
At those moments, her children become more needy, fussy,
demanding and unmanageable. Parents often wonder why their children
have to pick the worst times to act out or lose control. The answer
is clear. When a parent suppresses negative feeling, the sensitive
child will feel what the parent is suppressing and lose control. The
negative feeling the parent is suppressing will be absorbed by one
or more of the children.
Imagine two tanks connected by a tube and a valve. Let these two
tanks represent parent and child. Fill the parent’s tank with a blue
liquid representing negative energy, and fill the child’s tank with
red liquid representing positive energy. Now open the valve. The
liquids begin to mix very slowly.
Now put a lid on the parent’s tank and press down. As you push
down, what happens to the blue liquid? It very quickly gets pushed
over to the child. This example illustrates what happens when
parents suppress their feeling. What they suppress, their children
will feel and express. A child becomes the black sheep of the family
only when absorbing the negativity that everyone else is
suppressing.
From John Gray’s: How To Get What You Want And Want What You
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